Finding Joy In Hard Seasons, Master Your Emotions, & The Power Of Perspective Shifts
Overview
In this episode, I share three significant perspective shifts that have improved my mental well-being and ability to handle life's challenges. This episode is designed to help you embrace your current season, thrive despite obstacles, and cultivate a mindset geared toward positivity and growth.
What you'll learn in this episode:
00:00 | Intro
02:31 | Perspective Shifts for Better Mental Well-Being and Attitude
06:03 | The Journey of Trying Out for Alabama's Elite Cheerleading Squad
07:21 | Navigating Personal Disappointments and Finding Purpose in the Present
15:10 | The Power of Stewardship and Faith in Overcoming Debt
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How Shifting Your Perspective Can Transform Your Life
Key Takeaways
Embrace the mindset that better opportunities always follow disappointments, as per Vanna's personal anecdotes and biblical perspectives.
Recognize that reactions from others often stem from their issues, not yours, and maintain your peace by setting emotional boundaries.
Focus on present responsibilities and be a good steward of what you have now to prepare for future opportunities.
Mounting pressures and endless responsibilities can weigh heavily on mothers, leading to moments of guilt and self-doubt. Vanna and Bana from the "Mom Guilt" podcast unpack essential mindset shifts that can help mothers transform guilt into growth. Let's take a closer look at their conversation and draw out impactful lessons that can bring clarity and empowerment to moms navigating different seasons of life.
The Blessing of Disappointment: Why Not Getting What You Want is a Good Thing
When life doesn’t go as planned, it can feel like the universe is against you. However, it’s crucial to shift your perspective and recognize that perhaps there's a bigger plan in motion.
“When an outcome or a situation is not what you hope for… there is a reason, and there is something even better out there,” Vanna asserts.
This mindset isn't just positive thinking; it’s a deeper belief in an overarching plan that life holds something better for you. Vanna shared a poignant personal story about her attempts to join the University of Alabama cheerleading team. Despite two unsuccessful attempts, this ‘failure’ set her on a path that led to a fulfilling career, a loving family, and a sense of purpose she might never have discovered otherwise.
Moreover, Vanna intertwines her belief in the law of attraction with her religious faith:
“Perspective is so important, and the law of attraction is real… I also believe that my God is very real as well. And every time something doesn’t work out the way that I want it to or think it should, you know, that’s funny. God’s laughing.”
Vanna’s perspective is rooted in Isaiah 55:8-9, which echoes that God’s plans and thoughts are far beyond our comprehension. She suggests that adopting this perspective can provide comfort and guidance during times of disappointment.
Emotional Boundaries: Maintaining Peace Amidst Rude Interactions
Interactions with others are inevitable, and sometimes these interactions can be negative. Vanna emphasizes the importance of maintaining emotional boundaries and the realization that you cannot control others' actions or reactions.
“Since I have become so in my power of emotions, when people are rude or I witness them being rude, my first thought is, ‘Nope, I don’t have time for this. Not today, Satan.’”
One of the most enlightening pieces of advice Vanna offers is to recognize when someone’s bad behavior is a reflection of their internal struggles, not yours.
“If you’re in public and people that you don’t know are outwardly rude… you just have to realize they have to be hurting so bad inside.”
This realization can be freeing, as it prevents you from internalizing their negativity. By maintaining your emotional peace, you’re not giving away your power or happiness to someone else’s bad day.
For those deeper triggers, where reactions seem disproportionate, Vanna advocates for therapy and internal examination:
“...a Christian counseling that I personally did, showed my triggers and childhood traumas to be able to work through them, whereas I would have never figured that out by myself.”
Recognizing and addressing these internal triggers can help you navigate through the emotional turbulence, making it easier to maintain peace and emotional boundaries.
Embracing the Present: Stewardship of Current Blessings and Responsibilities
Feeling stuck or dissatisfied with life’s current season is a common struggle. However, Vanna emphasizes the importance of being present and a good steward of your current blessings and responsibilities.
“If you can’t be present, joyful, and a good steward of what you have now… you will likely not be given the opportunity of more.”
In an era where future aspirations often overshadow present duties, Vanna reminds us to focus on what’s in front of us. Whether it's your body, mind, finances, or home, taking care of these present responsibilities can set the stage for future blessings.
Vanna’s own experience illuminates this principle vividly. Struggling with debt, she and her husband committed to financial stewardship, participating in a church program called Rooted. Their prayers and efforts were answered unexpectedly when Brian’s company sold, providing a lump sum that exactly matched their debt.
“It was the same exact amount as our debt... God was saying, be a good steward, pay this off, and then I will continue to multiply for you.”
This miraculous resolution underscores the belief that when you manage well what you have, even greater opportunities will emerge organically.
Navigating Through Life with A Renewed Perspective
Ultimately, Vanna and Bana’s discussion on the "Mom Guilt" podcast serves as a powerful reminder to every mother: shifting your perspective can profoundly impact your life. By embracing disappointment as a stepping stone, maintaining emotional boundaries, and being a good steward of current responsibilities, you can transform guilt into growth and find purpose in every season.
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